Did you just realise that your once amazingly, spotless boo isn’t as amazing as you thought? Well, no one is ever that amazing. So what do you do when things go south in your relationship as a result of recent changes or bad behaviour you just started noticing in your man? Do you just nag, keep nagging and never stop nagging? No! Dearest, don’t do that. That’s a terrible choice to make.
This very insightful article by Stassi Reid of Bolde will help you through this tough time and change your perspective in dealing with matters of the heart. Sometimes, if not most times, the solution is never to nag or try to force him to change. Change comes naturally with love and patience.
1) BECOME HIS TEAMMATE INSTEAD OF HIS COACH.
No one likes to be told what to do, so if you’re barking orders like you’re a drill sergeant, it can lead to a lot of resentment. That’s why it’s best to treat your relationship like a partnership and make sure he knows that you’re both on the same team. Avoid nagging him, and instead tackle your requests with a little bit of teamwork. If you want him to help out around the house more, suggest you both clean up your pad together. You can turn it into a fun, weekly tradition. If he knows that you’re with him and not against him, he might be more inclined to meet your demands.
2) GO SILENT.
I’m not suggesting you go cold and ignore him, but limit your verbal communication so that he’ll know something’s up. Guys respond more when you pull away and withhold something from them. Bring your conversations to a screeching halt and he’ll surely ask you what’s wrong. That’ll be your cue to respectfully bring up what he’s doing and what he needs to change. He’ll be more willing to listen because he’ll be so happy that you’re finally speaking to him again!
3) THE REWARD METHOD.
Sometimes getting your guy to change is kind of like training a puppy. Using the reward method will ensure you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t. When your puppy does a trick, you give him a treat, right? Well, you can do the same with your boyfriend. Just make sure the treat is in the form of something he really likes, such as a home cooked meal or a night of mindblowing sex. When he goes out of his way to do something you’ve been begging him to do for a while, rewarding him will encourage him to continue doing the things that make you happy.
