#3 Keep what’s private private. Something that can make all the kind gestures in the world useless is spreading secrets. A man can appear to be a gentleman at first glance, but once he goes off and tells his friends or even strangers something he shouldn’t, he loses that gentleman title.
Now, what sorts of things shouldn’t you tell? Well, I like to say if you wouldn’t tell your mom you shouldn’t tell anyone else. You can tell your friends that you are seeing a girl and she is cute and funny, but telling them anything personal, private, or intimate is a big no-no.
#4 Have patience. Gentlemen can be in a rush, but they always show signs of patience. You say excuse me when you are rushing through a crowd. You wait your turn. You may be charming, classy, and confident, but being a gentleman is not playing a part. That means in all circumstances your gentlemanly ways should shine.
This also goes for dating. Whether she wants to wait to meet your parents, wait to kiss, or for anything else, be patient. Any decent gentleman knows that the right lady is worth the work and the wait.
#5 Mind your manners. Manners are for more than toddlers. Saying please and thank you is just the beginning. There is a time and place for a curse or two, maybe at a game or when you stub your toe, but shut down the foul language in almost all other circumstances.
And remember that manners are not just for those you want to impress. Be polite and courteous to service workers, employees, the elderly, and children.
#6 Be open-minded. Being a gentleman does not mean you can’t have your opinions and be sure of them. But it does mean that you keep an open mind about others’ opinions too. You may disagree with others, but you don’t judge them for their thoughts or beliefs and you don’t get into heated arguments.
#7 Read signals. Gentlemen are always aware of their surroundings. Having attention to detail is an important quality for a gentleman. What makes you stand out is that you pick up on things that others may not notice.
Is your girlfriend chilly? Offer your jacket without her having to ask. Is she uncomfortable at an event you went to? Offer to take her outside. If you want to master the art of knowing how to be a gentleman, being aware of what other people want before they say anything or even know themselves is a wonderful trait to have.