2. You feel jealous.
It’s fairly obvious why this is a mistake. It denotes insecurity and lack of self-confidence.
Jealousy is not a sign of love or a compliment. It is a restriction, a manipulation, a symptom of fear. That doesn’t mean you condemn the jealous partner.
In “Keeping The Love You Find”, the Harville Hendrix model states that partners are here to heal the wounded child in each other. If you can explore the wound that led to jealousy, you may find it easier to deal with a partner’s insecurities.
To avoid the problem in the first place, discuss up front that you will continue to have same and opposite sex friends. Ask what you can do to assure your partner when they feel jealous. Read “Romantic Jealousy” by Ayla Pines and visit library section 152.4 and 158.2 for other books.
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