Things I wish I’d known before she broke my heart – You don’t know what you don’t know. My first romantic relationship was kind of a mess. Actually, in retrospect, it was a veritable nightmare. I was a late bloomer, so, when I started dating my first-ever girlfriend (!!) my junior year of high school, I was just so damn grateful to have finally gone on a date and kissed a girl that I made a lot of bad decisions.
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I ignored red flags of abuse, I let myself be treated like crap, and spend weeks stressing over stupid, imagined psychodramas that my girlfriend would concoct.
I thought I’d finally (FINALLY!) fallen in love, but, in reality, I was just allowing myself to assume the submissive position in an extremely abusive and dysfunctional relationship.
When I think about those moments, more than anything, I just want to travel back in time and give myself the Good Will Hunting “it’s not your fault” hug. I want to put my arm around my own shoulder and assure myself that I did, indeed, have self-worth, that I deserved better, and that things would, one day, get SO much better.
If I’d just had some kind of relationship mentor — an older brother or a friend — to talk me through those initial dating pitfalls, it would’ve meant everything.
So, with hindsight now on my side, here are the 11 things that I wish someone, anyone, would’ve told me before my first experience with heartbreak and the ending of my first-ever romantic relationship.
1. You don’t love her.
I know it feels like you do, but, trust me, you don’t. This is just your first experience dealing with these kind of strong emotions in any sort of real-world situation. It’s not a fantasy anymore, everything is heightened. So, even though it FEELS live a forever kind of love, trust me, it’s not.
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