#2 Consider timing. While there really is no “good” time to break up with someone, try to at least be sensitive to what your partner may be going through. Deliver your breakup while your partner is not stressed with other parts of their life, or undergoing deeply traumatic events such as the death of a family member.
#3 “It’s not you, it’s me.” While saying these exact words is cliché and will likely have your ex bawling their eyes out over your lack of creativity, it’s still important to mention concrete reasons why you’re not fit for a relationship with the person.
#4 Be specific. And stay specific. If you’re breaking up, be specific as to where you’re coming from with your decision. Cite specific situations, but deliver them constructively, and in a way that they may come out of it broken-hearted but still a better person.
#5 Sensitivity. You may find yourself relieved to finally end a relationship and be free of a person that has made you sad for some time. But don’t go into the breakup all grinning and jolly. Expect surprise, denial, tears, hurt, anger, and a rollercoaster of emotions from the other party.
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